Other End of Lane

I was on my way to college; my watch has already clicked 8:00 AM ten min ago. I had a must attend class by 9:15 and I was still around 20 km away. Tension was building up as and when I started to get struck at each signal on this long ring road. I started to stare at my watch very frequently. My mind was restless and it started to think on what excuse should I give this time? Sir Traffic?? Or no need to attend class? Can I make it within time?? Or shall I take shorter ways?? If I take shorter way I have to explore a lot and in the end I will lose my time.

Sun started to spread his rays slowly and I was busy in thinking of all my college chores that has to be finished by looking at decrementing counter of traffic signal, as if to divert my mind from this tension business, BMW waiting at signal on other end of lane just few meters away from me made me attract to it. I always get attracted to these high profile cars from childhood. I was looking at it passionately, suddenly I could see the sliding window, wow what a beautiful girl!!  For a moment I was lost in the eyes of what I am seeing at. A very simple girl with beautiful eyes looking out of window as if she has not seen the traffic crowd. I was staring at her beauty without my knowledge. Strong beep horn made me realize that signal has become green. Very soon I started to follow the car for few meters. But she got diverted at some other signal. What a start to the day!! I said to myself, smile remained in my face for a minute or so, started to keep on smiling by thinking of same incident again and again. But this sudden incident was volatile enough that I came out of it very soon. But one question remained in my mind, why the hell i did not follow her till end ? Was this class so important that i am not supposed to bunk out?? I felt that I should have followed her!! Between my sub conscious mind made me realise that it was just a mere incident that happens with all others. So its better to keep this as sweet memory of what you have seen and should move on. I guess I was very happy that day by thinking of her again and again.

While returning back to his home, my eyes were searching for the same car, I was just looking at any BMW, but alas, I did not find any. I had a fine day though it was same routine day like rest of other days, but signal incident made my day to look special. very next day I again started to look for same car here n there, finally very same signal came, but I did not find the car. So from then I stopped thinking about it and came into senses, again same routine chores made me busy. it might have been 3 days after that incident, this time I could able to find the same car at the same signal, but I was behind that car and somehow I managed to pull up and made sure I am beside that car, I was wishing to see her again and as if an answer to my wish, she opened the back window again. This time I saw her very closely with wide open eyes, and then I realized that she was not from India, she looked like a mid-Asian. She looked at me too, with a smile at the edge of her lips. Soon they got departed again. Luck started to walk by my side and I started to see her everyday at same time and same signal. she used to be in car and he used to be on his impulse bike

There came a day wherein I felt like I should make a move in this relation, this time I thought of to ask her number, exchanging smile was more than enough for me to gain the required courage to make a move. I wanted to ask her number!!! But how can I?? I never spoke with her, and am scared too, she was very 1st gal for whom I am wishing to talk with her desperately. But how to proceed?? I started to think on that, finally I got out of class pretty much early as if I have got some idea, soon I landed up in Garuda Mall, took nice white colored graffiti T-shirt. And got it printed my mobile number on back of it. So I was ready to make move, but time seem to move very slowly for me, I was feeling restless and got awakened from sleep repeatedly, and used to sleep back by looking at time, it’s just 2:00 AM, 4:00AM, god when it will become 8:10 !!!! , there it was I was ready by 7 and came very early to that signal with my new branded T-shirt. But I did not make move from that signal instead I started to wait by edge of road for the same BMW, so there it was exactly at 8:10 I could see the car, I got ready and came in lane, but she was on extreme right and I was on extreme left of road. Now I was trying to show my number by showing my back, but she did not notice it instead she felt bad that I am trying to avoid her by showing my back to her. So she closed the window and moved ahead.

Sadly I did not understand what had happened, but after thinking for while I felt that may be she got annoyed. next day again I wore same dress, and this time I was somewhat near to her car and started to show his number and this time I tried to tell her by giving sign to look at my back … there it was, she took down the number finally. I started to wait for her call/message; 10 days passed by but did not get any. Slowly I started to feel that it may not be other side , it’s still one way of love. Or may be i am feeling that its love. I have changed my timings, decided not see her in signal. Changed my route, but fate had something else to say, that day she also changed her route and yet again we happen to meet in some different signal.  Well this time it did not happen by mere co-incidence, we are meant to be met.

May be after half quarter, when I was in middle of some novel, my mobile cell beeped with unknown number. as he opened it lazily , I saw a message, saying ” Hi Stranger ”

Well, that’s how it started; it did not take much time for me to get to know that it was her. so eventually we started to exchange messages very often. got used to each other, started to know each other very well. and it was very happy time for both of us. Finally one fine day we decide to meet!! Somewhere outside Bangalore, so I chose Café Coffee Day of Bidadi, she was asked to come there around 4:30, and I was there by 4 and was waiting for her desperately. so she was there by right on time, there came a big vehicle Audi, I told myself what the heck man, “Its Audi”. I smiled at her and moved further. As we shook hands, soon I saw her car’s back door getting opened and there came two kids aged around 3 -5 years, asking mom who is this?? , I could not believe what I just heard, she introduced me to them, say hi to uncle, he is my friend. His name is “Angad”. I was shocked and could not say anything…. we both just moved into coffee day and finally she broke the silence, I am Eva Sandra, I have been brought up in Israel, single mother now and came India to pursue my carrier. I am studying Oncology. It’s good that I happen to meet a friend like you with whom I can spend time with and share my life. I was dumb stroked, shattered within, and was just nodding my head, trying to keep fake smile on my face. She asked me again, what are you up to Angad? I told her about my post graduation in medical science. We started to speak normally, had some snacks and coffee…

We think we understand our life, but life always surprises us…

Causes and Catastrophic results of global warming: Pictorial

pictures says more than what words fail to do !! I am having some pics to share, I start with causes of global warming and as we move down we can see catastrophic affect of global warming….

Green house effect

high increase in pollution

contributing to increase in temperature

statistical analysis

resulting into melting of ice caps

no more icecaps for polar bears

change in habitats and leading to death of polar animals

if you sit quite thinking its happening for your neighbors.. here is it .. next is you !

cyclones formation

leading to drought at some continent and viceversa at other

leading to Psunami at some other place

act before its late

 

Disclaimer : above pics have been taken from Google for explaining global warming. I thank the one who took such nice pics and shared it with google !!

An Inconvenient truth : Global Warming

It was sometime in 2010 Jan, my friend Manoj made us to see this video of Al Gore on Sunday mid afternoon. It was a documentary so we literally had less interest in it. but at the end of the video it created a wave in us. so I thought of to put it into words, hence is this blog.  Al Gore( Albert Arnold Gore), for those who has not heard this name, here us small info about him, he is enviormental activist and was vice president of US in the period of 1993-2001. Please hold your breath as you go through next few paragraphs.

“What gets us into trouble is not what we don’t know It’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so”

This is a very important quote as there is another such assumption in most of our mind about global warming is that, the earth is so big that we can pass through with no loss and less harm on earth easily. It was true once but not anymore, it is because of vulnerable part of earth ecological system is earth’s atmosphere. It’s vulnerable because it is so thin and more pre dominantly we are capable of changing basic composition that is the root cause of global warming.

As all we know sun’s radiation reaches earth, heats it up and some of the radiations is absorbed which warms the earth and rest re-radiated back to space by earth in the form of infrared waves. Some of outgoing radiation is trapped by earth’s atmosphere and warms it, it is good thing because it keeps the temperature of earth within certain limit, relatively constant and makes it livable. Now problem is this thin layer is thickened by global warming pollution like green house gases, CO2 leading to heating up of our atmosphere.

This CO2 pattern goes up and down naturally, but why so? We know about landmass of earth, most of vegetation is situated in northern part of earth that is above equator, so leaves will grow by absorbing CO2 and keeping it low, when season changes trees shed their leaves and exhales CO2 so again CO2 concentration increases, hence higher CO2 in earth atmosphere, so what happens if Our atmospheres contains high CO2? Why CO2 concentration increasing in our atmosphere. It all because of deforestation and high usage of fuels everywhere. Impact of this is seen these days, Mighty glaciers of have melted into water .ice of great glaciers like Kilimanjaro of Africa, grannel glacier, Columbia glacier of Alaska, glacier AX010 of Nepal, Adamello,Mandron glacier of Italy, Rhone glacier Switzerland, the list will go on……. This all happened in the past 30 years, as of now we hardly find some glaciers. 15 hottest years on record ever measured have occurred in last 19years. 1990, 91, 95, 97, 98, 2001-2008 and hottest of all is 2009.

There is a drastic increase in temperature all over the world including oceans, when oceans get heated up it causes stronger storms like hurricanes, recently we experience many hurricanes, hurricane Ivan in Florida, new record for tornados witnessed by south America and for typhoons by Japan, list goes on with these hurricanes to name a few, Sudal, Dianmu, mindulle and tingelting, canson, Ma-on, songda, Emily Dennis, well known Katrina, and most Sunami in India. global warming not only causes hurricanes it leads to calamities like floods and drought. It increases precipitation at some places and simultaneously causes drought by shifting precipitation events. When Mumbai experienced 37 inches of rainfall in a day leading to flood at the same time most part of northern Karnataka and Andhra Pradesh were experiencing droughts.

Sea Ice has a story to tell us, when sun rays hits land ice mountains and floating ice on ocean, it reflects back , but when the rays hit ocean it will be absorbed by ocean leading to increase in ocean temperature and further it melts up the floating ice on oceans, this melting builds up heat at north poles, it certainly not good for creatures which are habitant of ocean and polar region, as a polar bear swims around 90 miles to find a floating ice and that to for small time. Million of ecological nature is affected by global warming.

 

Scientists unable to figure out the rate and have astonished by the rate of ice cap melting, there is a lot of difference between floating ice and land based ice, if floating ice melts it doesn’t increase the water level, but if land based ice melts it increases water level of oceans, pacific nations, Greenland ice can alone raise the water level of sea to 20 fleets if left out Greenland melts fully, or half of left out Greenland and quarter of Antarctica can drown the most part of Florida, sanfrancisco, Netherlands, Beijing, Shanghai, Calcutta and other coastal belts of India, Full Bangladesh, New York city will not have clue about its existence if it happens. Effects of global warming are very drastic, billions of people will loose there life, will loose the shelter; will loose everything, its unthinkable to create refugee camps for those people, as it go beyond counts.

It’s possible that we should prepare against other threats along with terrorists, may be we have to concern about these problems too.

“It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends upon his not understanding it”

“Humanity already posses the fundamental scientific, technical and industrial know-how to solve the carbon and climate problms……….”

We got to do lot of things to help our self, like more efficient use of end user electricity, other end use efficiency, passenger vehicles efficiency, and renewable technology, carbon capturing sequence and supply efficiency, if we do these efficiently we can go back to the carbon level of 1970’s

 

We have ability to do this, each one of us has contributed to global warming but each one of us can make change now, We can make a lot of difference in tackling problem of Global warming.

 

Here are few basic things that we can do

1. We can reduce our carbon emissions 2. Switch off your computers, lights while leaving for EOD.

3. Go for Car pooling, so that we can reduce energy consumption and efficient fuel consumption

4. Weatherise your house, increase insulations, get an energy audit recycle

5. If you can, walk or ride a bicycle if its not that necessary to use the cars

6. Switch to renewable sources of energy, like solar systems, solar water heater, solar power backup

7. Store rain water if you can

8. Change your thermostat (and use clock thermostats) to reduce energy for heating and cooling 9. Buy energy efficient appliances

10. Speak up about this in your community

11. Plant a tree, few trees, and lot trees.

Join our hands together to make a difference before it is too late.

N4

I could sense sweet mud smell of first rain of the season but my mind was lost in some old time, was thinking what made this relation so beautiful?  Was recalling everything that I spent few yrs ago, how it started? Meanwhile I was bought back to this world by few words of that boy who was saying “Sir Coffee!” , I said him thanks, and started to smell the aroma of coffee while watching the heavy pour through window of that hotel.

That was a dance competition when I saw her for the first time, it was around 8.40 pm, infact probably even I was not knowing that I am going to meet her that day, surprise meeting. Does u know Satish? Was the 1^st thing that I asked her, I could see her nodding her head?  It’s me!!! , how are you? If you face any problem let me know. That’s it, my first conversation came to an end within few seconds L .  was very happy , I was heading back to my room with my friends don’t remember what they were trying to talk with me, I was laughing myself by thinking what her friend told me when I was asked about her couple of days  back.

“Hey do you know anyone named N of computer science, very impulsive response from her was yeah I know, she is my roomy, please don’t rag her, she is very innocent and she will cry out. I started to laugh and told her to ask N, that whether she knows me?”

I was not having mobile during those days, nor does she. So only way to keep in touch was whenever I see her I used to talk and try to increase the conversation gradually. As days passed, our friendship and comfortable level eventually increased.

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Yesterday I was thinking of her (I do think of her everyday nothing much special in making me think other day too ), where to meet, when to meet, well somehow managed to meet her and that’s the first time in many years she tied rakhi on my hand, though she has sent rakhi every yr without missing even once from yr 2001 as I remember. But this was 1^st time she tied directly. Well felt happy no I should say my happiness has no bounds J so does her’s. I always thought of to give something but in the end I end up with giving nothing other than my time.  She is someone whom I cant describe her in words, but I can feel her, her beats, her thinking’s to some extent by now, that what is the capacity of time, when u start to share and start to give each other ample of time you will find other one in you J that’s what time is capable of to doing.

N4 is Nanda, my sweet sister, my one of best friend; we are not related by blood but related by heart, by feelings, by eternal respect, by care, by mutual understanding, by time, by fate and by loveJ. It’s really tough to bring your feelings into words. Some things can be felt but cant be expressed so does is Nanda’s Love J she is as good as my own sisters. (Sup and Shwe, I can see Sup in Nanda, both are almost same by mind).

Thanks to Indian postal service and To sammi, cos because of them I got Nanda. She stands by me in all ways, I can share each and everything with her, she supports me, helps me, suggests me, and makes me realize what am I doing? What I need to do? Am I right? What I need to improve? How to handle things, mostly few of my decisions with respect to some sensitive matters will be according to her. You will start to feel happy if you are sad and down if you just speak with her, that’s the magical stuff she is gifted with.

Our siblings push buttons that cast us in roles we felt sure we had let go of long ago – the baby, the peacekeeper, the caretaker, the avoider…. It doesn’t seem to matter how much time has elapsed or how far we’ve traveled.

This blog is totally dedicated to her, lastly but not least if I can describe her, she is nanda, simply nanda, you will find her very unique and very special in her own way n no one can be another Nanda.  so N4 …..

I sought my soul, but my soul I could not see. I sought my God, but my God eluded me. I sought my Sister and I found all three.

This is what a woman’s role in a man’s life such as sweet sis

Its all about who , when and why ??

I could able to hear my wife  yelling my name from long time , I was unable to understand what she is trying to say .. suddenly I could feel soft touch on my face.. I woke up all of sudden from sleep it was my little angel in her school uniform , she just said, “papa mummy bula rahi hai aapko” ( dad mom is calling you). I said okie and slept back for small nap. Sanjuuuuuuuuuuuuuu …. Heard my wife yelling at me… I woke up from bed and started to alight down the stairs, I could see my wife looking from sofa with furious look. She asked me whats Date today?? I said 5^th November!! Why what happened?

What happened?? You don’t remember anything!!! Today we are supposed to visit Shreya’s school, we have a function to attend in her school, it’s already 8:00 am here, and we have to be in school by 10:30. I started to say sorry honey, I forgot that, I need to rush to office; I have a meeting by 12:00 noon today, must attend for me. She got pissed off of me and started to yell again, but she was waiting for this day from long time and Its you have to be there as every other child’s father comes there!! It’s a must attend function please for God’s sake dedicate an hour to your daughter.

I could not say no, I called up office and told them that I will reach office by 12:00 noon directly to meeting. I calculated everything, we will reach her school by 10:30 am and 45 min function and I can leave by 11:15 then I can attend my meeting easily. We finished our breakfast and drove to school within time. I could see most of other kids’ parents there. My wife took me to Shreya’s principal and her teachers, we had a casual talk about her studies and all.  Suddenly miss Verma asked me, So Mr sanjay all set for function ?? I am glad that you are here to attend.

I took my wife aside and asked her? What’s this function is about?? why she is asking me whether I am ready for it or not ? She got angry and told you forgot again!! I told you about this function last Monday itself and I have reminded you about this Friday also! What happened to you?

Finally she told me that it’s a function where in every child will say few words about her father and father have to answer some easy questions about herJ. Oh that’s it?? Damn easy, I told I can manage easily no worriesJ.

It was about 10 min ago, my daughter came near to me and told, papa I have asked my teacher what they will ask, I made note of it also, so here is list , see this once.

How old is she : I am 7 yr old

My favourate color : purple

My favorate fruit : orange

Favourate flower : gerbera

I hate this animal: lizrds

I like this animal: cat

My birthday : 5^th November

I love : my daddy

My aim : I want to be my mom

As I read this, tears rolled from eyes, I thought I knew my daughter , but I wasn’t , I was living in illusions, my daughter know me well, I never know how she has grown up to 7 years, for me it was like she was born as if last year, but she has spent her 7 years of her life and I am not part of it in most of time. I always thought I am trying to work hard so that I can keep my family happy but I forget to realize that happiness is not a big thing, its in every small work we do , it’s in time what we spend with our family not with machines which is not having life, today she made me realize that I need to love my family and need to give importance to it, need to prioritize it. I need to love people and should use things, these days I was using my ppl and loved things/my work. My life is not only my work, work is just part of it. I have to fill my life with all other small things to make it beautiful .

As function got over my daughter came running and told, she is very happy that I am with her today. I did not go to office for rest of day. My wife came near me around 11:45 and told Sanju you are supposed to attend meeting by 12, I said Lets go and have lunch outside, I have spoke with my team and they can manage even without me but you and shreyu need me more than my team , I am sorry , it took time to realize L. I could see tears by edge of her eyes. She holds my hand tightly and whispered “I love you”, I just smiled at her … we had shreya’s birthday to celebrate !! in evening too …..

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There is nothing called busy or something that we can’t afford. It’s all depends on how we look at things and how we treat our relations!!, we are not  busy enough that we can’t give any time to our loved ones, it’s all in our hands. If my friend ask me to help in finding something if I think its waste of time, since he needs it and he will do it by himself eventually. That means that friend is just an option for me not a choice!!. If he can find by himself he could have not asked you. You can’t ask something to someone who doesn’t mean anything to you.  There is nothing called busy/waste of time. It’s all about priorities , who when and why ??

I was chef that day

We do not remember days; we remember moments

                                                                                                                                      ~Cesare Pavese

We four were already in KFC outlet in Indiranagar waiting for other two to join. But how can we keep quite in KFC? Started with our burgers, it was supposed to be Rajeev’s party on that day as he was about to travel to Switzerland next day.

Seven year hostel life had let us to weave web of memories to cherish throughout life. But unforgettable was one when we could able to fool our house warden, and since we all four were part of it, it was topic of that hour to laugh out.

“One of reasons why people hold on to memory so tight is because memories are the only thing that don’t change when everyone else change”

We were served with chicken on every alternative Thursday at hostel mess. So that was most loved item for us as we had meager options to change the routine taste. But for our bad luck we were left with no chicken that day, but at teachers service point we could able to see lot of chicken left out, so we tried requesting our great house master to spare some chicken pieces with us. But he rejected the request very elegantly.

Immediate Sunday after that incident we were caught eating chicken by roadside outside school campus by the very same house warden which was against the rule. We all were very much sure that we will be out of school very soon and as result of breaking rules we all were suspended for 15 days. So that’s where cold war began between us and house warden.

Rajeev’s home was in the same city so he was the first one who got humiliated very much from this incident as he had to answer everyone in that city. We all decided to take revenge for this. Since this all started because of chicken we thought only chicken can help us in taking revenge. That was last week in our school before we were passed out of that forever.  Every other friend of us were taking autographs and giving gifts to our so called beloved house warden as token of love and affection. We had something else in mind, we four approached our house warden and told him that, “Sir, as this Sunday will be our last day in school, as token of love and affection we would like to invite you for lunch in Rajeev’s House and we will try to cook to show our gratitude and love “.  Our warden said yes without knowing our plan.

We had plan to feed him rats saying its chicken, we distributed responsibility of plan, one will get rats and other will get it cleaned , I was the one who was supposed to cook it with the help of menu J . We four got some fried items and rat cage, kept all those fried food items in the rat cage, kept the rat cage in the storeroom of mess. So finally very next morning we could see four rats in the cage. Two of us as planned took that and made sure that it looks like meat.  So finally the biggest head ache was cooking and there was lot of hesitation in doing it too.

We washed all rat meat and kept in plate with turmeric powder and chicken masala mixed with that. After some time we soaked them in curds. Now we made out some gravy with coconut paste, onion n ginger garlic paste.  We mixed all in gradients and boiled it for some time. Finally we put some rat pieces into it.  We put the mixture on oven for some time. When everything was ready no one was ready to taste it. We fried some rat pieces dipped in besan paste as different item.  We worked hard in making sure that we are not caught.

Finally when our warden was bought to home, we served everything and he was very happy, he started to talk lot other things and started to suggest us to make good carrier in future.  But meanwhile one of friend could not control sir eating rat and went outside and started to vomit.  We all were tensed and our warden to start to smell something is fishy, but could not able to find out. We could able to manage somehow.  Luckily my cooking was tasty to some extent and we could able to take good revenge on our warden too. Finally Rajeev sent him a letter after he was out of school saying it was rats, asking him sorry for the prank played by us J J I hope he won’t mind about it at least by now.

We were in the mid of our memories, by that time our two more guys joined us. We started our party finally at KFC, had nice food and nice time. We all still have a fear of facing him in school so that’s why we all still skip our alumni days… Hope to see our warden getting changed soon.

“To feel the taste of food you should be hungry” 

 

PS : It’s not real story, it’s just created one for situation. this was for indibloggers’s competation

On a SeriOUs nOTe

 

Most of us fighting against corruption!! Supporting Anna Hazare, great. Well and good, we all contributed in good discussion and spreading about fight against corruption. Because it’s highly visible and UN acceptable by us. There are some more issues that do need attention, it needs awareness, it needs you to stand against it. I am here to just bring some limelight onto it. Trying to convince you in my own way with all real incidents which happened in front of me. It’s not about good or bad, it’s all about “you being human”.

It was sometime in 2008 year end. I was doing my M.Tech those days. I was heading back to my room after classes, it was somewhere near about 6 pm in evening, me and my friend were waiting for bus near Kadirenahalli cross, Kumaraswamy layout, Banglore. Meanwhile a couple of boys came on bike and started to tease a girl who was standing few steps away from us. They started to ask her mobile number, he was saying his friend is free today evening would you like to accompany. She was embarrassed, her voice became low, she was unable to stare at them, but kept herself mumbling with few lines, “I am not like that kind of gal” , she was terrified, it took us few mins to understand whats going on there, but we cant resist ourself to move forward to speak with those rouges. I dono how come I got courage, may be because I had a friend who was standing beside me, we had verbal conversation, eventually those guys left the place with warning, saying “I will see you when you meet alone “. Great, we were feeling very great for the deed we did there.

Yesterday, Dated: 20^th oct 2011, it was 4:30 evening. I was at New Horizone college stop, outer ring road, near Belanduru, Bangalore. Normally most of classes gets over by 4:30pm.  I should say, this is one of cloudiest bus stop during evening time, because college gets over and you can find many students, employees over there. As always I was waiting for bus, as I explored around, I found a girl who was sobbing very much, beside her is a boy worn a red RCB jersey. Few feet away there is another guy with his ears pierced and a wearing a steel ring. As I concentrated towards them, got to know situation.

Scenario was this, she was a college student, must be computer science Mtech (her seminar report made me guess so). This guy was threatening her saying why can’t she love him? He was even asking her to talk with her. He is watching her from many weeks; he took her mobile and was touching her here and there. She was sobbing like anything. Her eyes silently asking for help, she was very much scared, not even able to speak out. I made a move, but don’t know I stopped myself; I did not get the courage to do anything. Many college students came to place, all were not even bothered about it. Finally three of gals , came and asked her, she could not speak out. But as soon as this other guy joined this fellow, those gals moved back. I saw my bus, before I board it I could manage to say her this much, leave the place and inform your parents. I have no idea what happened after that.

I have changed, this was not me. I was feeling very bad; guiltiness is still with me till now for not acting upon on situation. I have my own reasons for the changes in me. I hate this Satish. Let me keep this apart.

It was sometime in 2009, near Jayadeva flyover. BTM, Bangalore. She was Honeywell employee; she was returning home around 7:30 after her office hrs, she was supposed to walk some 200mts from the place where her cab drops down. Within 200 mts she happened to meet couple of guys who stopped her by bike, teased her, took her pallu, ran away in fly, she was shocked with the incident. She did not go to office for next day. Next week she dropped mail to most of her friends just to create awareness. But we take it casually until unless it happens with us. So immediately after few weeks another friend of her met with same sort of incident near Banashankari temple.

This happened in sept 2011, she was studying her final year engineering. A guy somehow gets her number and start to send messages and calls. (Most of time, gal wont reply to unknown calls and messages as I know), this guy started to tell his friends about her, eventually his friends started to tease her. That’s very much common when u r in college, but it did not stop there, he was behind her saying he loves her and he want her.. blah blah blah ….. so she could not do anything, did not tell anyone. That guy started to follow her activity, he eventually started send messages saying, you go to your home by this train right ? I even know your home, I will see how you will go to home this time ? I am ready to face anything for you, I even will come to your home!!, I am not scared of anyone. Even her college moments were being sent to her , there she started to scare, she lost her freedom, so finally she told to her friend. Her friend called him and but that guy was not ready to listen.

Now she was not able to do anything, one fine day she called up her bro, and told everything, sent all messages sent by him to her bro. so literally everyone gets scared when such things happen, and that too when those kids stay far away from home. Her bro tried to talk with that guy, but eventually that guy started to threaten him, saying his back ground, even making his friends to call her bro. eventually her bro informed their parents, told them to go to college and speak with HOD/principle as it has reached to such stage where we can’t neglect. Later when that guy came to know that her bro is coming to visit his principle, his nerves broke down, called him up and said he wont do anything, please don’t come and complain. There was a compromise, and ofcourse he has to excuse as that should not spoil his carrier. ( this is my sis story and I was one who responded this way).

Guys , one thing you should always understand, you get attracted to someone when you are teens, but make sure that it should not hurt others, it should not cause problem to others, you are not supposed to kill someone else freedom/privacy. It’s not that only you will have friends who will stand by you, even her family members, her bros, supporters, do have their friends, everyone will have friends but make sure you support your friends only in good deeds, not in idiotic heroism.

Now point over here is, many times, girls will come across such things, they get teased by boys in bus stop, they get followed by boys, even guys may go wild and can do harm to you, if you are sitting silent that means you are encouraging him, don’t ever sit silent, if you have faced any issues, anywhere, whether its bus-stop, college, office any other place make sure you open your mouth and speak about it with your parents, friends, brothers, husband, at least the one whom you trust. If you won’t speak up, you are inviting problems. Always be cautious in whatever act you do.

If someone hurting you in public place don’t cry out or lose your self control don’t panic, be brave outside at least, making sure you ask for help, it’s not that you will start to cry, ask for help, until unless you speak out no one will come to know.  If you feel you need help from police, don’t hesitate, but make sure that issue is serious enough to lodge complain (just by thinking practically).

On other hand you are very much aware of robbery, recent incident is about  a TCS employee, he boarded a cab from ecospace to marathalli, there were already 3 ppl sitting in cab , cab driver did not stop cab at marathalli , instead all 3 tied him up to seat, took his two credit cards, took amount from his debit card, they hit him badly, finally they threw him on airport road, devanahalli highway, he managed to reach home, adter couple of days off he lodged complain in police against robbery. So its up to us to relay on trustworthy sources of communication.

Final scenario, this happened in one of MNC, a guy finds out a mistake of his lady colleague and raises the concern to his higher authority. That’s professional all he wanted was goodness for team, instead that lady takes it personally and some days back she complains to their higher authority that , that boy has misbehaved with him, after lot of trials, he was terminated from company with black mark on his code of conduct in his relieving letter. Eventually that guy finds difficulty in finding new job, switches away from corporate environment. After few months when that gal happens to meet him she asks him sorry after realizing that she did mistake.

Sometimes we should always keep in mind on our act.  Many times realization is not worth as it comes after losing lot of things. I am not deciding here on who is right? or what’s right ? or nor do difference between good or bad. I am appealing many over here to be human; humanity is first thing that you should always keep in mind.

You are said to be civilized, so it depicts in the way you behave, the way you treat people, the way you look at things, our education teaches us all these in some part of our life. Don’t try to enter someone else space, let them live there own life, until unless that person mean to you. Everyone is having their own choice, their own privacy, their own feelings, emotions, respect them. Try to act on situation, don’t let it be hidden. Everything has a threshold; don’t let anything to cross its threshold. React before it’s too late. Trust after taking time. Learn to live. Love the people and use things, not to love things and use people. Many times we try to find mistakes , always remember if something happened between two people, both are responsible, because you can clap only with two hands.

Try to communicate; communication solves most of problem instead of keeping things within. Most of time we see lot of cold war’s because we never wish to communicate. If you see something is wrong, raise your voice. Don’t let it accumulate. If you want to see changes change yourself accordingly……. Let’s be cautious, aware, smart, so that we can reduce most of anti social things, if you feel something is bothered I am sure this time you will find solution. I had a word to communicate… I had a concern to raise… I hope this will help few…..

incidents which i depicted are real.. not imaginary..

Around me

 

Around me was something which I have experienced in my recent times, something which inspired me, something which gave me meaning , some lines which I say over here is again inspired from other part of my reading through these days. This is not a technical papers where in I am talking logical matter, this is totally illogical feelings, sometime left unsaid, high emotions which were tried to put into words, some pain of missing loved one’s , some Do’s and some Don’ts, these are very easy to say, even I am unable to get out of it and start following Do’s.  I am still looking back and want to be same “Satish” .

 

Today I was sitting on small bench under a tree. I was very alone, thinking of how life changes and all. Some days back I was very happy, but these days I am missing that thrill of happiness. Dono what made me so ? What went wrong? Why things changed with me? Still changes are inevitable… I know, I have to cope up with the things but I prefer to be same as I was before. Its not that I am feeling this loneliness. It’s with me from many months. Some time no one can replace someone’s place and feelings with them. It’s easy that I express mine feelings what if someone won’t express them and still suffers??, Some changes are do necessary but it’s not necessary that you have to like those changes.

Life’s a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. its not that  fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it. Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, and moment by moment.

Some time I feel not to expect anything. To erase all life expectancies. Just live.  life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows. But what’s life without expectancies?? I prefer to expect rather than living a life of meaningless.

I plan something and I think too much, which is merely about future not at the present. In the end I start to compromise and live the life which is not of mine, which is having no meaning, which will not give a happiness of doing something which you do without thinking. Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

 

I feel I was somewhat happy in my way when I was not having job, only thing I was bothered was Job at those time, I knew that I will get job sometime of my life but I was going behind it restlessly. My loved one’s used to call me on phone; we used to talk once in week at least. Of course used to talk with parents most of weekdays too. This day I don’t remember when I spoke with my beloved friends/sis/parents. Its very rare, only now I talk is with my parents that too once in week. I dono where am I going too. I feel like to call up and talk with my beloved ones, but things have changed, unable to do that. So please resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing( If you are happy with talking with your special one’s, chatting with them go ahead and do it. If you skip it today you never know tomorrow.). Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

 

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are

 

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working or you have changed a lot!!.

 

In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions

 

 

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument. fall in love as many times as you need. I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone. But love is something which you love other person by allowing her to live her own way or the way she is!! Not by making her compromise.

 

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

 

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

 

“Be with someone who knows what they have when they have “you “

 

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm. But remember If it happens once you will keep loving irrespective of other person. For you loving her will be only great thing of your life. You love her and do it at most happily.

 

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

 

A Wise Physician said ” I have been practicing medicine for 30 yrs and I have prescribed many things but in the long run, I have learnt that the best medicine for human creature is ” LOVE” . Someone asked if it did not work ?

 

“then Increase the dose”

 

I am right on it. I do increase the dose every moment and it increase self happiness within me and Its merely needed that love need not be expressed. It’s just felt.

 

Sharing love is Caring!! 

The First Ray of Sun : Aarushi

 

“Who should be blamed when a leaf falls from a tree?

Is it d wind that blew it away? Or the tree that let it goes…………?

Or

Is it the leaf who grew tired holding on …?

 

Life unfolds a lot of misunderstanding everyday, it’s up to us to solve it, leave it or live with it”

 

Sometime some days remain in memory with some unforgettable moments. So do 29^th dec. it was the day when Aarushi spoke to him for 1^st time. That’s more than enough for him to remember that date.  She did not tell him any other thing other than these few line “why strength is so less in cab?” He did not reply for her question because of sudden shock (infact he did not realized that she was speaking to him only). He just nodded his head left and right to tell her that his answer is “Dono”. Smile remained on his face for the rest of day irrespective of situation and place.

 

“One of reasons why people hold on to memory so tight is because memories are the only thing that don’t change when everyone else change”

 

Days started to change in Ani’s life. He started to enjoy the office days more than holidays. Early Tuesday morning he was waiting for his office bus at least10 min early of his scheduled time. he was in cab and was talking to other friends but inturn he was waiting for Aarushi to get in. as her pick up place was nearing he started to make himself comfortable and tried to keep himself normal, but sadly his heartbeats used to increase as her place used to near. All of sudden he became dull, Aarushi was not there. All other colleagues entered, he was still looking back to make sure she is coming or not, but she didn’t. he did not speak anything with anyone till they reach office. He did not find her while getting back home. Things were same for next two three days. He was unable to get any info about her. Normally if you have work you will somehow manage yourself to pass time, same was with him too.

After a week he could find her stepping those metal steps of cab. He was not dared enough to stare her but he was feeling happy inside. That’s brings back smile on his face, his favorite time pass in cab was to stare through window with ever lasting smile on his face. As soon as she gets down he started to follow her unknowingly, she never turned back even he did not wanted her to do that also.

It was few days later, as both get in the elevator; they witnessed none other than these two in the lift. He was feeling uneasy within till they reach floor no 7 and then she left the elevator and he left his breath out finally. That day he was lucky enough to see her very now and again in office J . He wanted to narrate all his feelings to someone, finally he found his buddy to share his unexpressed feelings. From then his feeling were valued by someone at least. His buddy told him once “ Dude this is very good period, where you can feel anything enjoy by your self, but if you express it to her then probably you may not enjoy the same way what you are doing now irrespective of her answer” .

One fine day both got into the elevator and some other girls were also there along with these two, so our hero , pressed floor no 7 and 8 though she did not asked him to press floor no 7 for her. Later he realized that he did mistake, his mind started to think that what if she thinks he is observing her? As it was not the very 1^st time he did that. Last day while getting off from cab, as soon as her place came, he saw Aarushi not getting down, Ani told her that mam it’s your stop!!!!!!!!!!! L , she told him politely, no today I have some work so I will get down at next stop .

These all scenario made his buddy to laugh out hard. Finally he was so curious to know his girl. So then as soon as Ani told her name is “Aarushi” , his buddy told that man are you sure is it Aarushi only ?? , later he told Ani that, “dude Aarushi is already married to someone”, but Ani did not believed his words, eventually by thorough observation he realized that his friend was right. She was married indeed L . Now what he had to do with that as he was not aware of that she is married?

 

“It’s better to forget some unforgettable memories which don’t suit our practical life even though they are precious”

 

But as days passed he made himself very comfortable with her, accepted the situation. He started to feel very easy to talk with her after that. Till now he adores her , respects her for all what he enjoyed because of her J Some memories always remain like fresh footprints on wet sand

DeFinITioN of nOtHinG

” Time doesn’t wait for you or me, days pass & years change, you miss your loved ones, you move away from your closed one’s, your life changes, friends change, people change but your heart has those precious moments engraved in it whether you need it or not. they are always there, making you happy at sad times and sad at happy times. you think about those happy days then smile and when somebody asks you reason for your smile……

………..

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you say “NoThinG”

Coffe or Canejuice ? ….. they decided to go for coffee.  “A lot can happen over a cup of coffee” Manju knew that it was their regular time for coffee. As soon as he saw Anirudh ,asked  how’s you bro ? well before he say something Manju kept two cups of coffee in front of him . All he could give was a regular smile with a quite affection .

So before he had his first sip, he was interrupted by her question? Ani  what’s your age ?………  24 by December  but why ?  Saw her smiling by edge of eye…  don’t worry you are still so young enough that a lot of girls will come into your life!!!  So don’t worry about her, she is not the last. She was trying console him as he was missing his best friend in fact his sisterly friend. She was getting married and was going away from him. He manages to tell her that I may get many but not someone like her…………… Silence overplayed their rest of conversation till coffee gets over.

She was silent while returning, Ani broke the silence 1^st.  Nidhi did you also missed your sister like this when she got married? She said yeah but not much with my 1^st sis.. I missed my 2^nd sis when she got married….  But not now as my husband fulfilled all their absence.  She was elder to him by 5 yrs at least but one of his good friend of his college days.  

 

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Sometime some words remain in heart as fresh footprints. Some memories won’t vanish for ever. These comment from Nidhi was one of those for him, couple of years ago when Vj told him that according to your numerology you will have most of friends as girls he laughed out hard at him and made good fun of it. But now he started to analyze each word. Everything was according to as both said.  Time changes so do your life. New people start to walk-in and walk-out but few remain in life as relations.

Beep horn of traffic helped Ani to bring back to the world; his bus was not even moved a foot from where it was stopped. He did not bother much about it as he was used to it.  He slightly turned left to check out his girl is still there.  She was the one whom he is adored of. many gals are part of his route, and half of cab gals are his friends. But for him she was the one who made him to recall his past.  He turned right and his smile stayed on his face for couple of minutes ……………

That was his 1^st day after he decided to use bus facility from his working place. He was uneasy as it was new world for him. He entered the vacant bus and settled himself in last but one seat. After 10 min quarter of dozen employees boarded his bus.  He was silent for few couple of minutes, later as a confirmation he asked a guy who was sitting behind his seat to confirm does this bus goes to his place. after hearing yes from him, Ani said thank you  as if he was about to runaway . that was his last world spoken on that day in his bus. He was seeing all new faces, gals talking to boys and couple of gals making a huge noise with great bang and laugher. He saw them and put his headphones and started to stare outside the window.

Next day morning he saw the other day’s absent face for the 1^st time with wide open mouth and changed the sight very soon. His mind was filled with her. He was unable to express how he was feeling at that time.  She was silent she sat few seats front to him.  She was silent , did not bother to wish anyone, she was very calm and pretty descent. Ofcourse very cute too.  His mind was busy in finding her name out. But he took two days to find her name.  “ Arushi” finally he found her name, he was jumping out of happiness, Arushiiiiiiiiiiiii ……  what a lovely name ? ……………………………………..