“ Pyaar koi bhool nahi, Pyaar koi awaz nahi, Ek khamoshi hai, sunti hai to kaha karti hai,
sirf ehsaas hai yeh, rooh se mehsus kro, pyar ko pyar hi rehnd do koi naam na do”.
That day I could not able to concentrate on my job properly. I was waiting for her call throughout day but I did not get any. I was thinking whether she felt so bad about yesterday’s fight?? But what did do as such? I was just trying to tell her what is correct and what is wrong! Is it necessary that I have to support her even when she is wrong? So let her call me and why should I do it? Normally I do used to get call every time we had fight. But why it is not coming today? Did she forget me? Or is she still angry on me? She did not even bother to reply to my good morning message. Is she still worried about yesterday’s talk? Why is she not even giving me miss call? It’s almost half day passed but could not hear anything so far. Okie… It’s too much now I will also not wait for her call. I don’t need her too. If she doesn’t give me importance why should I give?? Why I should need her if she doesn’t need me?
Still I was unable to concentrate on my work. It was almost evening but my wait did not get over and I could not come out of it either. I was getting depressed and could not hold it further. I took my cell gave her call.
Hello Arushi?? , she said, “Mandy, I am in college function from morning I can’t talk now”.
I felt relaxed. All my idiotic thoughts got settled now. I felt so relaxed; I could able to start my work again. I started to think, what took so long to give call? Is it my ego? Or my angriness? Or what else? If I would have called in morning I would have not spent complete day waiting and mourning.
I flew back to some such events that had happened in past. This was not the first time we had fight in past one year and so. Last time we had fight was because I wanted her to give some of her days’ time to me. I just wanted to spend some time with her. I started to force her for the same. She had her own problems, her own studies and had to take care of her family. Though I knew her situation and her status but I could not control my emotions and I started to get frustrated and we started to fight on some or other way. All that I needed was her time and wanted to feel that I am also important to her along with her other responsibilities and studies. But I had observed that every time we fight, it use to go to such extent that we wanted to break it out and wanted to stop this relation. Angriness always controlled us and we fought every few days. After sometime we started to feel that may be we are pushing this relation and she does not understand me. We bid good bye many times after these fights. But one good thing that always impressed me was, “Arushi real nature”.
After every fight I used to stop talking and used to be in heights of angriness. But after a while my mobile used to ring, I used to get her call every minutes. She used to keep texting me “Mandy, please pick call, I am very sorry for everything” but I never used to pick. I always used to take time until I get back to my senses and after a while I used to pick call. But meanwhile I would have got many calls and many messages of her. We used to talk calmly and we used to sort out everything again and our relation used to get back with full life. Once that moment passes our love used to grow very much and it used to multiple after every recovery. She was the one who used to initiate communication. We always made sure fill that communication gap. That day I learnt that if at all someone has to learn on how to keep relations and how to fill relation with life, and then they just have to be like “ARUSHI”.
“My best relation is the one who always said sorry first even when mistake was mine”. Arushi always did that.
One fine day in one of our conversation, she had told me, Mandy, everyone is having their own life and they live it in their own way. Until you put yourself in their shoes we will never come to know what that person is actually living.
One golden line that she ever said. “I don’t judge someone else love”.
What a meaningful line, If we understand it we will understand each other’s love. We feel what other person feels. We start to support each other when we do it. You stand for them and you will stand tall.
I am sure every one of us might have experienced same situation some or other day in your life. But most of us ended up with breaking the relation. Most of us will make relation very easily and will try to impress when it is new but we fail to retain it with life in it. Most of our fights end with bad note.
Never leave a true relation for few fights or some flaws, nobody is perfect, nobody is always correct, its matter of time, let that time pass by, keep aside your anger, keep aside your heartedness, apologise and adopt, in the end “love and Affection” is greater than “perfection”.
When you could wait for someone for few hours it indicates your need and for you they are optional. But when you can able to wait for few days you have hope and trust that they may come back, but if you learn to wait for person when you are aware that when person cannot be with you for rest of time and you still want to be with that person and you still wait for them then it’s out of “Love” and is indeed love. All that need is Love. You understand it; you feel it and reciprocate it. It grows indefinitely. It stays with you and it makes you something which you even would have not imagined.
If u gets very closer to someone then small change in them will hurt you. Don’t preach every time, if she/he has done mistake. Sit beside her/him and make him/her understand. Tell her that you do it out of concern not because of her mistake. But make sure that you support her/him even when she/he is wrong because you have to support her/him and not her/his mistake. Your support makes her/him to rectify the mistake.
There is nothing called perfect, almost perfect guy/girl is not the one who has the most money to give you security or it’s not that handsome guy you happen to meet in some part of your life, s/he is the one who makes you smile and will take care of you and will always give you that security the way s/he is and can give you the most love more than that you deserve.
Someone said we should not be cheating in relation instead it’s better to take a break or just leave it than to cheat just because you are not happy with that relation. Have trust in relation and in your partner. When you are away or sometime many hands/situations/people tries to break your relation. Make sure you communicate, keep trust and support each other in spite of minor concerns or issues. Your love should go hand in hand with your studies/job/sports/work/business. Make sure you don’t ignore your partner else it will create loneliness in his/her life in spite of your existence.
“Let your love change your world, never allow world to change your love”.