Parasitism

Someone once asked me, what keeps you happy! It’s not that easy to answer when I myself don’t know the exact answer. Happiness is state of mind and situation. It may differ with respect to people and situations.  Many people may influence your state of mind, many says do what your heart says. Just a small question strucked in my mind. Does heart says anything??  Or is it mind that speaks?

We as human have a greater tendency to follow others.  We live in a society; hence forth our life will be influenced by many others too. Fair enough, so we start to live as others suggest. Or to live the life the way others expect too, to most of extent. Our most of decisions will be dependent on our friend’s opinions or someone else reviews.  So our state of happiness will be ultimately influenced by others.

There are two kinds of people we always come across. Some people influence us by their life and some gets influenced. There will be only 20% of people who will influence others by their life style. We call these 20 % people as SUCCESSFUL. Rest 80% will strive to reach among those 20% and they try to follow them. We call these 80% of people as SURVIVALs.  So what makes this 80% people to stay among one among 80% only?  Only one thing, they always try to find 100 reasons for not doing certain thing!!!! Fact is they forget that there are other 110 reasons to do the same thing if they wish to do it.

Let me narrate you a small story !!

“In a forest there lived a tiger family. It has couple of tiger cubs and its own other cats.  One cub got separated from its family and got mixed up with deers family. Deers started to treat that cub as one amongs its family. Tiger cub started to play with deers. It grown up by the way deers grew up.  It started to follow deers life style.

One fine day these all deers and the grown up tiger were playing happily. Suddenly it saw the rest of deers started to run as tigers have attacked them. So our grown up tiger also started to run faster and faster. It ran so fast thinking it should not be caught.  In the night all deer’s and this tiger were very happy that by the grace of god they got survived today.  Deer’s leader was giving them advice on how to escape when tigers attack them. This tiger felt so good after hearing to their leader’s speech and thought I will follow the same.

This happened for long. It spent most of its life running for its life and trying to survive among the deers. One fine a day a Eagle which was watching this from long time. Flew down and thought to say something to this tiger. It was waiting for situation to approach the tiger. One sunny morning as tiger went near the pond to drink some water alone, eagle followed it and said. Hey there!! ,  Do you know what you doing ?? Tiger said , what ?? , You are wasting your life by the way you are living.  Tiger got fussed and said , what ! are you out of your mind ? I am living my life to good extent. I graze in the field and will be the first one to survive when Tigers attack.  Eagle replied Calmly , Hold on,  why do you graze in the field ? why you run for your life when other tigers attack ? you should go for hunt, you are pride of this forest , “YOU ARE a  TIGER”.  This tiger did not belive his words and started to giggle and make fun of eagle, you think I am a Tiger ! , you should see the real tiger , I am a deer buddy.

Eagle thought let me try again,  and asked you think you are deer !!, well, so tell me friend, Did you ever saw any tiger in your life ?? this tiger replied  with pride, Yeah So many times, Every time I run for my life Tigers will be attacking us.  Okie , fair enough, look into the pond and tell me do you see the tiger ??  as tiger peeped into the pond to see, it saw the tiger and started to run again. Eagle followed him and told, wait , wait, its nothing other than you. You are a tiger”.

There is a lot to learn from this story.  We all know that we are tigers, but we need someone to show us the way or to make us realise that we are tigers.  Most part of our life we fail to make decisions. We try to play very safe, we fail to take calculative risks, we start to ask for reviews for each and every single of decisions.  We are so dependent on others, may be our friends, relatives and others to make us decision for us. We mostly follow them. We tend to follow the mob and we wish to be one amond the mob. Masses never be a successful persons. Successful person is always a only one and definitely he will take his own decision. He takes a decision and makes it right.

We should start to think on why I should do this? If we start to think how to do it? We will become survivors and we always lead our life as survivors. If we think on why I should do this? Then we will be the one who will influence others.  Make sure you live your life and not on someone else’s opinion.  Find out the opportunity and work on that, cross check with yourself that does that opportunity helps you to make the difference?? can I afford that much of risk ? If I lose this opportunity do I have any other alternative options which give me same visibility? Between this rat race we all wants to be successful. For that we all have to be ourselves. Be yourself and success follows you.

PS : I am not a successful person , it’s just a thought that striked and thought of to share. Images chosen are just to fit to situation.

Other End of Lane

I was on my way to college; my watch has already clicked 8:00 AM ten min ago. I had a must attend class by 9:15 and I was still around 20 km away. Tension was building up as and when I started to get struck at each signal on this long ring road. I started to stare at my watch very frequently. My mind was restless and it started to think on what excuse should I give this time? Sir Traffic?? Or no need to attend class? Can I make it within time?? Or shall I take shorter ways?? If I take shorter way I have to explore a lot and in the end I will lose my time.

Sun started to spread his rays slowly and I was busy in thinking of all my college chores that has to be finished by looking at decrementing counter of traffic signal, as if to divert my mind from this tension business, BMW waiting at signal on other end of lane just few meters away from me made me attract to it. I always get attracted to these high profile cars from childhood. I was looking at it passionately, suddenly I could see the sliding window, wow what a beautiful girl!!  For a moment I was lost in the eyes of what I am seeing at. A very simple girl with beautiful eyes looking out of window as if she has not seen the traffic crowd. I was staring at her beauty without my knowledge. Strong beep horn made me realize that signal has become green. Very soon I started to follow the car for few meters. But she got diverted at some other signal. What a start to the day!! I said to myself, smile remained in my face for a minute or so, started to keep on smiling by thinking of same incident again and again. But this sudden incident was volatile enough that I came out of it very soon. But one question remained in my mind, why the hell i did not follow her till end ? Was this class so important that i am not supposed to bunk out?? I felt that I should have followed her!! Between my sub conscious mind made me realise that it was just a mere incident that happens with all others. So its better to keep this as sweet memory of what you have seen and should move on. I guess I was very happy that day by thinking of her again and again.

While returning back to his home, my eyes were searching for the same car, I was just looking at any BMW, but alas, I did not find any. I had a fine day though it was same routine day like rest of other days, but signal incident made my day to look special. very next day I again started to look for same car here n there, finally very same signal came, but I did not find the car. So from then I stopped thinking about it and came into senses, again same routine chores made me busy. it might have been 3 days after that incident, this time I could able to find the same car at the same signal, but I was behind that car and somehow I managed to pull up and made sure I am beside that car, I was wishing to see her again and as if an answer to my wish, she opened the back window again. This time I saw her very closely with wide open eyes, and then I realized that she was not from India, she looked like a mid-Asian. She looked at me too, with a smile at the edge of her lips. Soon they got departed again. Luck started to walk by my side and I started to see her everyday at same time and same signal. she used to be in car and he used to be on his impulse bike

There came a day wherein I felt like I should make a move in this relation, this time I thought of to ask her number, exchanging smile was more than enough for me to gain the required courage to make a move. I wanted to ask her number!!! But how can I?? I never spoke with her, and am scared too, she was very 1st gal for whom I am wishing to talk with her desperately. But how to proceed?? I started to think on that, finally I got out of class pretty much early as if I have got some idea, soon I landed up in Garuda Mall, took nice white colored graffiti T-shirt. And got it printed my mobile number on back of it. So I was ready to make move, but time seem to move very slowly for me, I was feeling restless and got awakened from sleep repeatedly, and used to sleep back by looking at time, it’s just 2:00 AM, 4:00AM, god when it will become 8:10 !!!! , there it was I was ready by 7 and came very early to that signal with my new branded T-shirt. But I did not make move from that signal instead I started to wait by edge of road for the same BMW, so there it was exactly at 8:10 I could see the car, I got ready and came in lane, but she was on extreme right and I was on extreme left of road. Now I was trying to show my number by showing my back, but she did not notice it instead she felt bad that I am trying to avoid her by showing my back to her. So she closed the window and moved ahead.

Sadly I did not understand what had happened, but after thinking for while I felt that may be she got annoyed. next day again I wore same dress, and this time I was somewhat near to her car and started to show his number and this time I tried to tell her by giving sign to look at my back … there it was, she took down the number finally. I started to wait for her call/message; 10 days passed by but did not get any. Slowly I started to feel that it may not be other side , it’s still one way of love. Or may be i am feeling that its love. I have changed my timings, decided not see her in signal. Changed my route, but fate had something else to say, that day she also changed her route and yet again we happen to meet in some different signal.  Well this time it did not happen by mere co-incidence, we are meant to be met.

May be after half quarter, when I was in middle of some novel, my mobile cell beeped with unknown number. as he opened it lazily , I saw a message, saying ” Hi Stranger ”

Well, that’s how it started; it did not take much time for me to get to know that it was her. so eventually we started to exchange messages very often. got used to each other, started to know each other very well. and it was very happy time for both of us. Finally one fine day we decide to meet!! Somewhere outside Bangalore, so I chose Café Coffee Day of Bidadi, she was asked to come there around 4:30, and I was there by 4 and was waiting for her desperately. so she was there by right on time, there came a big vehicle Audi, I told myself what the heck man, “Its Audi”. I smiled at her and moved further. As we shook hands, soon I saw her car’s back door getting opened and there came two kids aged around 3 -5 years, asking mom who is this?? , I could not believe what I just heard, she introduced me to them, say hi to uncle, he is my friend. His name is “Angad”. I was shocked and could not say anything…. we both just moved into coffee day and finally she broke the silence, I am Eva Sandra, I have been brought up in Israel, single mother now and came India to pursue my carrier. I am studying Oncology. It’s good that I happen to meet a friend like you with whom I can spend time with and share my life. I was dumb stroked, shattered within, and was just nodding my head, trying to keep fake smile on my face. She asked me again, what are you up to Angad? I told her about my post graduation in medical science. We started to speak normally, had some snacks and coffee…

We think we understand our life, but life always surprises us…