Around me

 

Around me was something which I have experienced in my recent times, something which inspired me, something which gave me meaning , some lines which I say over here is again inspired from other part of my reading through these days. This is not a technical papers where in I am talking logical matter, this is totally illogical feelings, sometime left unsaid, high emotions which were tried to put into words, some pain of missing loved one’s , some Do’s and some Don’ts, these are very easy to say, even I am unable to get out of it and start following Do’s.  I am still looking back and want to be same “Satish” .

 

Today I was sitting on small bench under a tree. I was very alone, thinking of how life changes and all. Some days back I was very happy, but these days I am missing that thrill of happiness. Dono what made me so ? What went wrong? Why things changed with me? Still changes are inevitable… I know, I have to cope up with the things but I prefer to be same as I was before. Its not that I am feeling this loneliness. It’s with me from many months. Some time no one can replace someone’s place and feelings with them. It’s easy that I express mine feelings what if someone won’t express them and still suffers??, Some changes are do necessary but it’s not necessary that you have to like those changes.

Life’s a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. its not that  fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it. Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, and moment by moment.

Some time I feel not to expect anything. To erase all life expectancies. Just live.  life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows. But what’s life without expectancies?? I prefer to expect rather than living a life of meaningless.

I plan something and I think too much, which is merely about future not at the present. In the end I start to compromise and live the life which is not of mine, which is having no meaning, which will not give a happiness of doing something which you do without thinking. Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

 

I feel I was somewhat happy in my way when I was not having job, only thing I was bothered was Job at those time, I knew that I will get job sometime of my life but I was going behind it restlessly. My loved one’s used to call me on phone; we used to talk once in week at least. Of course used to talk with parents most of weekdays too. This day I don’t remember when I spoke with my beloved friends/sis/parents. Its very rare, only now I talk is with my parents that too once in week. I dono where am I going too. I feel like to call up and talk with my beloved ones, but things have changed, unable to do that. So please resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing( If you are happy with talking with your special one’s, chatting with them go ahead and do it. If you skip it today you never know tomorrow.). Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

 

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are

 

Find that pursuit that will energise you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working or you have changed a lot!!.

 

In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions

 

 

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument. fall in love as many times as you need. I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone. But love is something which you love other person by allowing her to live her own way or the way she is!! Not by making her compromise.

 

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

 

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

 

“Be with someone who knows what they have when they have “you “

 

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm. But remember If it happens once you will keep loving irrespective of other person. For you loving her will be only great thing of your life. You love her and do it at most happily.

 

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

 

A Wise Physician said ” I have been practicing medicine for 30 yrs and I have prescribed many things but in the long run, I have learnt that the best medicine for human creature is ” LOVE” . Someone asked if it did not work ?

 

“then Increase the dose”

 

I am right on it. I do increase the dose every moment and it increase self happiness within me and Its merely needed that love need not be expressed. It’s just felt.

 

Sharing love is Caring!! 

The First Ray of Sun : Aarushi

 

“Who should be blamed when a leaf falls from a tree?

Is it d wind that blew it away? Or the tree that let it goes…………?

Or

Is it the leaf who grew tired holding on …?

 

Life unfolds a lot of misunderstanding everyday, it’s up to us to solve it, leave it or live with it”

 

Sometime some days remain in memory with some unforgettable moments. So do 29^th dec. it was the day when Aarushi spoke to him for 1^st time. That’s more than enough for him to remember that date.  She did not tell him any other thing other than these few line “why strength is so less in cab?” He did not reply for her question because of sudden shock (infact he did not realized that she was speaking to him only). He just nodded his head left and right to tell her that his answer is “Dono”. Smile remained on his face for the rest of day irrespective of situation and place.

 

“One of reasons why people hold on to memory so tight is because memories are the only thing that don’t change when everyone else change”

 

Days started to change in Ani’s life. He started to enjoy the office days more than holidays. Early Tuesday morning he was waiting for his office bus at least10 min early of his scheduled time. he was in cab and was talking to other friends but inturn he was waiting for Aarushi to get in. as her pick up place was nearing he started to make himself comfortable and tried to keep himself normal, but sadly his heartbeats used to increase as her place used to near. All of sudden he became dull, Aarushi was not there. All other colleagues entered, he was still looking back to make sure she is coming or not, but she didn’t. he did not speak anything with anyone till they reach office. He did not find her while getting back home. Things were same for next two three days. He was unable to get any info about her. Normally if you have work you will somehow manage yourself to pass time, same was with him too.

After a week he could find her stepping those metal steps of cab. He was not dared enough to stare her but he was feeling happy inside. That’s brings back smile on his face, his favorite time pass in cab was to stare through window with ever lasting smile on his face. As soon as she gets down he started to follow her unknowingly, she never turned back even he did not wanted her to do that also.

It was few days later, as both get in the elevator; they witnessed none other than these two in the lift. He was feeling uneasy within till they reach floor no 7 and then she left the elevator and he left his breath out finally. That day he was lucky enough to see her very now and again in office J . He wanted to narrate all his feelings to someone, finally he found his buddy to share his unexpressed feelings. From then his feeling were valued by someone at least. His buddy told him once “ Dude this is very good period, where you can feel anything enjoy by your self, but if you express it to her then probably you may not enjoy the same way what you are doing now irrespective of her answer” .

One fine day both got into the elevator and some other girls were also there along with these two, so our hero , pressed floor no 7 and 8 though she did not asked him to press floor no 7 for her. Later he realized that he did mistake, his mind started to think that what if she thinks he is observing her? As it was not the very 1^st time he did that. Last day while getting off from cab, as soon as her place came, he saw Aarushi not getting down, Ani told her that mam it’s your stop!!!!!!!!!!! L , she told him politely, no today I have some work so I will get down at next stop .

These all scenario made his buddy to laugh out hard. Finally he was so curious to know his girl. So then as soon as Ani told her name is “Aarushi” , his buddy told that man are you sure is it Aarushi only ?? , later he told Ani that, “dude Aarushi is already married to someone”, but Ani did not believed his words, eventually by thorough observation he realized that his friend was right. She was married indeed L . Now what he had to do with that as he was not aware of that she is married?

 

“It’s better to forget some unforgettable memories which don’t suit our practical life even though they are precious”

 

But as days passed he made himself very comfortable with her, accepted the situation. He started to feel very easy to talk with her after that. Till now he adores her , respects her for all what he enjoyed because of her J Some memories always remain like fresh footprints on wet sand

DeFinITioN of nOtHinG

” Time doesn’t wait for you or me, days pass & years change, you miss your loved ones, you move away from your closed one’s, your life changes, friends change, people change but your heart has those precious moments engraved in it whether you need it or not. they are always there, making you happy at sad times and sad at happy times. you think about those happy days then smile and when somebody asks you reason for your smile……

………..

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you say “NoThinG”

Coffe or Canejuice ? ….. they decided to go for coffee.  “A lot can happen over a cup of coffee” Manju knew that it was their regular time for coffee. As soon as he saw Anirudh ,asked  how’s you bro ? well before he say something Manju kept two cups of coffee in front of him . All he could give was a regular smile with a quite affection .

So before he had his first sip, he was interrupted by her question? Ani  what’s your age ?………  24 by December  but why ?  Saw her smiling by edge of eye…  don’t worry you are still so young enough that a lot of girls will come into your life!!!  So don’t worry about her, she is not the last. She was trying console him as he was missing his best friend in fact his sisterly friend. She was getting married and was going away from him. He manages to tell her that I may get many but not someone like her…………… Silence overplayed their rest of conversation till coffee gets over.

She was silent while returning, Ani broke the silence 1^st.  Nidhi did you also missed your sister like this when she got married? She said yeah but not much with my 1^st sis.. I missed my 2^nd sis when she got married….  But not now as my husband fulfilled all their absence.  She was elder to him by 5 yrs at least but one of his good friend of his college days.  

 

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Sometime some words remain in heart as fresh footprints. Some memories won’t vanish for ever. These comment from Nidhi was one of those for him, couple of years ago when Vj told him that according to your numerology you will have most of friends as girls he laughed out hard at him and made good fun of it. But now he started to analyze each word. Everything was according to as both said.  Time changes so do your life. New people start to walk-in and walk-out but few remain in life as relations.

Beep horn of traffic helped Ani to bring back to the world; his bus was not even moved a foot from where it was stopped. He did not bother much about it as he was used to it.  He slightly turned left to check out his girl is still there.  She was the one whom he is adored of. many gals are part of his route, and half of cab gals are his friends. But for him she was the one who made him to recall his past.  He turned right and his smile stayed on his face for couple of minutes ……………

That was his 1^st day after he decided to use bus facility from his working place. He was uneasy as it was new world for him. He entered the vacant bus and settled himself in last but one seat. After 10 min quarter of dozen employees boarded his bus.  He was silent for few couple of minutes, later as a confirmation he asked a guy who was sitting behind his seat to confirm does this bus goes to his place. after hearing yes from him, Ani said thank you  as if he was about to runaway . that was his last world spoken on that day in his bus. He was seeing all new faces, gals talking to boys and couple of gals making a huge noise with great bang and laugher. He saw them and put his headphones and started to stare outside the window.

Next day morning he saw the other day’s absent face for the 1^st time with wide open mouth and changed the sight very soon. His mind was filled with her. He was unable to express how he was feeling at that time.  She was silent she sat few seats front to him.  She was silent , did not bother to wish anyone, she was very calm and pretty descent. Ofcourse very cute too.  His mind was busy in finding her name out. But he took two days to find her name.  “ Arushi” finally he found her name, he was jumping out of happiness, Arushiiiiiiiiiiiii ……  what a lovely name ? ……………………………………..

Hence the BetterHalf

” A man who treats his woman like a Princess is the proof that he has been born and raised in the arms of Queen“

We all know most adorable part of a man’s life is when he get a betterhalf, same hold good for a women too. It completes him/her. So what betterhalf is all about? When I ask a man, he says she should be fair, she should help me in all respects, she has to support me, she has to love only me, this all most of the men expect…….. Main part is we never think what a women expect from her companion. “My friend told me recently, I don’t expect him to be rich or cute, but I expect that he has to be Good hubby for me, he has to act as good friend of mine and most importantly he has to act as mother to me, so that he has to take care of me like the way my mother did”, what a point!!!! She did not say that he has to be smart or rich, he has to help me and all… this is what makes women a great creature. Most of time women become selfish only when she becomes mother, but when she is wife you wont find her selfishness at any part of your life Women is a Giver, she sacrifices almost everything for making her better half very happy, to make him comfortable. I don’t have words to express about “Better half”. But the below few lines say why we call better half ?

Sunrise… a fresh bath.. Melodious music.. aroma of hot coffee… and a companion for life… talking on all sorts of topics.. fits of laughter and sweet smiles… :)

This is the kind of mornings every gal would be dreaming of.. with her soul mate.. But can we really find one..?? The one who can be ur strongest supporter and love of life?? ..

If yes… then how???? Alright.. being a gal I search for so many qualities in a guy.. (sense of humour being a must.. ;))Probably that s the only advantage in an arranged marriage.. where u get to sit with the family and discuss…. ( whom ur going to LOVE for the rest of your life.. hehehehe ….)..

But then what does a guy expect… beauty? talent? character? attitude? looks? intelligence?? ( ALL… u guys may think.. ) Some may surely beg to differ.. Many men many minds…… After meeting a gal/guy.. Love needs time to realise.. There may be love at first sight cases..But I am sure.. the AFFECTION towards another builds gradually with time.. and that is what nutures a healthy relationship..

If you happen to meet a person who makes you love her/him then actually that s the person who loves you more than you can love her/him.. ( Read it again.. and try to catch the meaning…. ) If you ever happen to meet a person..to know that there exists differences in your thoughts.. but then you still feel like meeting all over again the next day.. It shows that u can aacept the other persons negative points as well.. :)

Nobody is perfect.. and no gal can get a perfect husband or no guy can find a perfect wife ( ideal pati.. ideal patni do not exist). All in one packages are not created by god.. everybody has gaps between their fingers.. It is upto us to find who can fill those gaps.. and hold ur hand to move ahead with u..:).

And guys…. the game of search is not about whom u can sleep with.. The challenge is to find the gal whom you wanna wake up with.. ( right??? ) The best breakfast one can have on a beautiful morning.. is to look at the face of the most loving soul next to ur warm face…when u open ur dewy eyes.. first thing in the morning.. :) It will make ur day!!

 

LOVE IS NOT A BIG THING…. ITS A MILLION LITTLE THINGS………..

I should specially thank my friend for making me read one of nicest scribble piece.( above few lines) I have no idea about original author of this, but I am sure author must be a Girl. thanks for such a nice scribble piece. Infact it was a inspiration for me go ahead with this blog. I was asked why you wrote the Blog “THE WOMEN” only???? Most of my men friends asked me this? And very few girls too. Well for writing blog on Women is because of what I have seen, what I have felt, what I have admired off. A friend of mine told me in phone with huge frustration after her marriage alliance was broken, she was damn upset, she told me Satish , “ Saddest part of my life is I born as a Girl”, so its just letting others know who thinks in same way!! When a post graduate girl was asked for dowry in terms of double digit lakhs, When a Head master of school thinks that, he will not allow his daughter to continue her study after matriculation, instead he will look out for her marriage!, when a girl needs a boy to walk from bus stop to till her home! When parents abort there womb because it’s a girl! There are many things to say if you ask me why the blog “THE WOMEN” .

The woman

   

 

        “God must have made men before women, Its always a drought piece made before the master piece”

Few days ago we celebrated “international women’s week” and finally a 33% reservation is given to women, I am writing this blog neither for my concern with international women’s day nor for reservation success. But for the God’s wonderful creation on earth “THE Woman”. There is another name of women which we know but we still behave as if we don’t know, well I call the other name of women as Love, Sacrifice, Patience, Support, Success, Zeal, inspiration, Care, Kindness, in a word if I say its mere Perfection creature on earth. I know when I say these things my men friends and few girls will probably oppose my notion towards women, but I said these because I enjoyed all these feelings as and when I come across women in my life time till date….. So what’s the necessary to write about women now? It’s too necessary to enlighten many people about the role women plays in each ones life. I have seen a very arrogant attitude towards women from most of men whom I came across my life. Why always women looked in a lower standard than men?? Are we really educated??

A woman is a blessing to this earth. If we consider her significance into the life we would be mesmerized by the versatile characters she plays. She is a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a friend and genuinely a real motivator, an inspiration and strength. A woman is a giver. In every role she plays she is always ready to give. As a daughter she is faithful to her parents and tries to put her parent’s faith o the top of her priorities. As a wife she is just a true devotee of her husband and at every step she helps her husband, supports him and encourages him to work hard. The most beautiful shade of a woman that everybody praises is the woman as a mother. A mother is a backbone for every family and every child. I still remember how my mother supported me in all my failures. How she enjoyed in my success. How much she scarified for me.

“When there were 4 sweet pieces and we were 5 my mom was the first one to tell that she don’t like sweets at all”

In every problem we all unknowingly remember our mothers. Mother is a person, who pampers, solicitudes, loves, gives, corrects, motivates and helps us without any expectations. I am having very best friend who is a girl, who was behind my failures, who was real motivator, who cried during my bad days, who enjoyed my success, who showered me love and affection, who cared me when I was not feeling well. Women are always great.

I even still agree there is proverb called

“ Behind every men there is a women”

well this sentence is more than enough to flatten a women, well they never tried to go beyond the actual meaning of that sentence, I am sure this sentence might have probably done by a man, there is nothing much to be happy when you hear this sentence,

“It says you always be behind a man, never try to go before him, you just support him, make him comfort, help him in his success but you be always behind him!!!!!!!! “

India is a society where the male is greatly revered. Therefore women, especially the young girls, get very little respect and standing in this country. Starting from birth, girls do not receive as much care and commitment from their parents and society as a boy would. Only about 39 percent of all women in India actually attend primary schools. There are several reasons why families choose not to educate their daughters. One reason is that parents get nothing in return for educating their daughters. Another reason is that all the females in a household have the responsibility of the housework. So even though education does not financially burden the family, it costs them the time she spends at school when she could be doing chores.

India is a male-dominated country and here women have always been a part of harassment and domination. But still after all the hurdles in their way they have come up with a lighting and bright power in today’s scenario. Women are the powerful entities and they are always being a brave fighter in the battle of life. Women have proved that they are no longer at loss in any of the fields and they are versatile. They do not expect too much in return. Women want just love, respect and care and we can shower the whole life for our loved ones and for our society. It is not just we women want it this way but any human being needs love and respect. Women are indispensible for this earth and for each and every society and family. If god has sent two entities on the world (man and woman) then he must have thought about their uniqueness. No one is complete without the other. Only men alone cannot run this world they need the women at every step of life. So still you planning for a dowry? Do you still don’t need a baby girl? do you still see women in lower standards ? Do you still dis-respect her?? think on before you comment on some girl !!

“The man who doesn’t respect a woman in his life will never love/respect his mother and his wife “